Sunday, May 15, 2011
Do single parent children miss out?
I used to get really down being a single parent. I felt overwhelmed and like my kids deserved better. Now that the years have pasted and they are getting older, I'm more financially stable, and more mature I don't feel like that anymore. Sometimes having one good parent is better than two bad ones, and thats what happens sometimes when people force themselves to stay together for the kids. The kids then get to experience fighting or lots of tension in the house which affects them too. I grew up in a single parent home but was involved with both of my parents. I'm actually happy that they decided to go their separate ways because I would not have enjoyed being in the house with them as a couple lol. But I have come a long way and I'm determined that my kids have a good life and not want for much just because I have decided that I'm going to do this by myself. I'm interested to hear from other single parents or your thoughts on children being raised by one parent...do they miss out or do they turn out just as good as others??
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I have a nearly 16 year old son and I've been a single parent most of his life. His dad was in his life in the early years, but has faded over time. We're fortunate to have a good support system with my family and friends.
ReplyDeleteDre' has always had what he needed both emotionally, physically, and monetarily. I don't regret being a single parent.
I raised my sons by myself single from the time they were 5 and 7. There dad drifted in and out of their lives with no support. There were hard times, sometimes I had to work 2 jobs and had to leave them by themselves but I made sure my sons had what they needed, a lot of love and time as a family. I made mistakes, sometimes I was so tired and I let them get away with not cleaning up after themselves, I did it; or talking me into not being grounded when I just grounded them. I made must not have been too bad, although sometimes I still struggle because they didn't get some of the opportunities as other kids, but now they say I did good because they had to do without things the other kids had. They appreciate things more. I think as long as they have love, know right and wrong, and know that mom always going to be there for them it will turn out right. My boys went to college and one is a high school teacher and coach and the other is a chef. I am very proud mom but I just did what I knew had to be done for them.
ReplyDeleteIn my opinion single parent homes can produce goal driven children that can be just as successful as those coming from a two parent home. Like you said just because there are two parents in the home does not necessarily mean both are beneficial to the child’s development. Do I believe that each parent plays a significant role in the child’s development? Yes, I do. That child will have to learn certain things on his/her own that the other parent should have been there to teach or even set the foundation for. TO ALL MY SINGLE PARENTS KEEP YA HEAD UP HIGH AND STAY FOCUSED!!! IT WILL PAY OFF!!
ReplyDeleteI have raised my son by myself for 15 1/2 years. Sure he sees his dad every now and then but for the 99% of the time it was all me. I was the one there when he was sick, broke his arm, scored the touch down to win the football game, etc. My son is a straight A student, particpates in football, basketball and baseball and works a summer job. All of his teachers and friends parents say he is a very polite well mannered kid. To me that says alot for a child growing up in a single parent home. I agree my life as well as his might have been different had I stayed with his dad. We would have fought all the time and to me that is not healthy. I think because of my choice to raise him by myself made me a stronger better person to. My son and I are the best of friends, but he knows I am "mom" to. Yes it can be tough being a single parent but so can a mom/dad household. The key is your children come first, teach them the basics in life and show and tell them you love them everyday.
ReplyDeleteI have several god children and a couple of them do not have fathers in their lives. I believe it is important to have a father-figure around. They have struggled in school and sometimes get upset about not having a dad, a role I try to play as much as I can. There certainly doesnt have to be a man in the house but I think they should have some sort of male figure around and vice versa. However if this is not possible I do believe love and compassion go very far!
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